By Paul Dunning
Over the years we have accumulated a large amount of data here on our web site about each of the sixteen types.
This series of articles summarizes responses by communication workshop participants previously posted in To Communicate With Me and Communication Highlights.
In each personality type summary we highlight themes and then rank those themes by organizing them from most to least common responses.
The bulleted points are statements on each of the 3 themes identified from ENFJ responses.
A person who prefers ENFJ wants you to:
Show engagement and enthusiasm when communicating
• Put it into context
• Let me know what you need from me (how can I help?)
• Take your time; don’t be impatient
• Show some purpose
• (Be) enthusiastic
• Give me some energy … don’t suck it out of me!
• Be mindful of listening to others
Understand how I relate
• (Know that I) share freely
• (Know that I) interrupt and don’t mind being interrupted
• (Know that I am) very verbal
• (Know that I) jump to the end of a “story” before the speaker is finished
• (Know that I) clarify thoughts through speech
• (Know that I) jump to new topics easily
Appreciate my perspective
• Be genuine
• Take a few moments to exchange some personal notes about you/me first
• (Know that I) can take other’s comments too personally
• (Know that I can) develop rapport easily
• (Know that I) like to make connections
What Does This Tell Us?
A person with ENFJ preferences wants to develop rapport and have their conversational style understood. An enjoyable exchange of ideas, when all involved are considered, is important to an ENFJ.
You can find more information on type interactions in Introduction to Type and Communication.