By Donna Dunning

INFP motto: “I’ve got a good feeling about this.”

People in your life with INFP preferences may surprise you. You may become accustomed to their calm, flexible, accommodating manner only to find that, once in a while, they become quite adamant and inflexible. When this occurs you can be pretty sure you have violated one of their core personal values. At this point, you are likely to be surprised by their firm stance and may hear them discuss issues that had not previously come to light.

How INFPs prefer to relate

A considerate, compassionate, quiet approach is characteristic of individuals with INFP preferences. They naturally focus their energy on helping and encouraging others, often accomplishing this by staying in the background in a support role.

Liking to keep the peace they will let many issues slide. They will not usually express their personal values unless they know you well and trust you. However, these values are the internal compass guiding their actions.

An individual with INFP preferences is usually thoughtful and carefully considers the needs and situations of others when talking or acting. They will bend over backwards to accommodate others and like to be appreciated for their support and efforts.

How to relate to an INFP

A person with INFP preferences usually enjoys one-to-one conversations that are harmonious and people-focused. Unless they are very comfortable, they will usually turn the conversation away from themselves. Take time to get to know them before expecting them to share important personal information.

Speak calmly and provide a pause to allow them time to gather their thoughts before expecting them to respond. Provide constructive feedback gently and make an effort to appreciate their efforts. The INFP will not usually seek out positive feedback, but may become discouraged if others do not notice their supportive efforts and accommodations.

Visit the Enhancer personality type page for more information about INFP preferences.

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More information about interactions and personality type can be found in Introduction to Type and Communication.