By Donna Dunning
In my personality type based communication workshops I sometimes have participants complete this thought -“To communicate most effectively with me, please…” This exercise helps participants express their personal communication style and preferences.
I can’t take credit for this exercise. It is modified from one created by Jean Kummerow.
Here is a photo of a response from an individual with ENFJ preferences.
This individual emphasizes the importance of having enthusiastic free-flowing conversations.
Notice that she is comfortable with interrupting and being interrupted. I have found this a common communication approach from people who prefer Extraversion, as they tend to finish each other’s sentences and move rapidly between speakers.
This ENFJ also notes that she has to be mindful to listen, another habit often associated with Extraversion.
People who prefer Introversion may interpret interruptions as rude (some Extraverts may too!).
Good things to keep in mind.
Perhaps Introverts can be more tolerant of Extraverted enthusiasm.
Perhaps Extraverts can try to interrupt less and listen more.
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Resources
For more thoughts on communicating well, read Introduction to Type and Communication.
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